Be Willing to Try Again
“Humans are social beings, and we are happier and better when we connect with others.” – Paul Bloom.
Humans are social beings and during the course of our lives, we would be involved in all kinds of relationships. Some will be healthy and others unhealthy. When you find yourself in a relationship that allows you to be better, invest and nurture such a relationship but if you are in an unhealthy relationship, break it off.
The best way to practice self-love is by breaking away from harmful or toxic relationships. For instance, when swimming, you don’t go into the pool wearing your corporate suit or backpack. The trick about swimming is to be light so that you don’t drown. Having unhealthy relationships is like having blocks tied to your ankles and then trying to go for a swim – If you do that, you would sink. Likewise, a person unwilling to break off an unhealthy relationship.
“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.” – Deborah Reber.
Sometimes, you could get involved in the wrong associations and if you fall into an unhealthy relationship, here are 3 tips on how you can move on in a healthy way.
- IDENTIFY THE LESSON FROM THAT FAILED RELATIONSHIP
” There is a lesson learned in everything we go through in life”- LaToya Jackson.
Whilst cutting off from an unhealthy relationship can be heart wrenching and time consuming, it is imperative you take that step because toxic or unhealthy relationships drains you, attacks your self-worth and leaves you worse off than you were. Any relationship that always takes from you and gives back negatively is parasitic in nature and must be cut off. However, even with all the bad experiences, there is always a lesson to be learnt. So, examine that relationship by pulling back dispassionately, pick your learning point(s), hold them to heart and move forward.
By so doing, you will begin the process of breaking away from the shackles of the traumatic experience.
- BE WILLING TO FORGIVE AND LET GO
“Forgiveness is an act of self-love”- Don Miguel Ruiz.
You must forgive yourself, forgive that person and let go. Sometimes letting go of unhealthy or harmful relationships is the most loving thing you can do for yourself.
For “to forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that prisoner was you”- Lewis B Smedes.
Whilst it takes time and a lot of self-retrospection to forgive, it takes love for one’s self to let go of past hurts and move on. The past cannot be undone, it can only be reflected upon to make better choices going forward.
- TRY AGAIN
“Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over.” – Nicole Sobon.
It is important to be intentional about trying again. I’ve seen too many people refusing to try again because of a failed relationship. Guess what, life is full of fantastic people looking for a fantastic person like you.
So, try again but this time, be wiser, ask the right questions, watch, seek counsel and when you do that; you will end up in relationships that enhance you, make you better and help your life become more wholesome.
So friend, Break that Toxic Relationship, Learn from it, Forgive and Let Go – then Try Again!
Remember, You Have Only One Life to Live, MAKE IT COUNT.